6 Gaslighting Phrases People Say To Manipulate You – Toxic relationships are rife with this kind of language.

Kelsey Borresen | April 27, 2021

Gaslighting, a manipulation tactic often wielded by emotional abusers, gradually makes you question your own judgment, feelings, memories and reality. Because of its insidious nature, it can be hard for victims to recognize it as it’s happening.

Abusers use gaslighting as a way to gain and maintain power and control in the relationship. They break down your confidence over time by making you think your interpretation of events is incorrect. The more you second-guess yourself, the more you start to believe their version must be the accurate one.

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Podcast | Valeria Teles interviews Beverly Engel — the author of “Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing from the Shame You Don’t Deserve.”

Valeria Teles | April 6, 2021

Self-Forgiveness: Your Emotional Healing
In the Emotionally Abused Woman, therapist Beverly Engel introduced the concept of emotional abuse, one of the most subtle, yet devastating forms of abuse within a relationship. Now Engel exposes the techniques the abuser uses to break your spirit and gain control—and guides you in how to free yourself from the shame that can keep you from the life, and the love, that you deserve.

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Livestream | Help for Toxic Relationships: Can & Will An Emotional Abuser Change?

By Dr. Rhoberta Shaler | March 19, 2021

When you experience emotional abuse, you often think you can do something that will cause the abuser to change, to see the hurt, to care more about you. Will that happen? What does it take? Is it likely. All these questions answered today with guest, Beverly Engel, author of Escaping Emotional Abuse.

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The Femtastic Podcast featuring Beverly Engel: Spotlight on Intimate Partner Violence Part 2

By Katie Breen | March 2, 2021

In Femtastic’s first-ever Spotlight Series, we focus this and the previous episode on bringing awareness to Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) or Domestic Violence (DV).

The months of COVID-associated isolation, fear, and economic anxiety have exacerbated IPV. In today’s episode, we focus on emotional abuse, an equally (and as our guest argues, more) damaging type of abuse that can occur in all types of relationships, from romantic to parent-child, to workplace and beyond.

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Podcast How Can You Overcome the Shame of Emotional Abuse?

By Highheelsandheartache | February 22, 2021

On this episode I chat with Beverly Engel about how to overcome the shame that many survivors of emotional abuse experience.

Beverly Engel has been a practicing psychotherapist for thirty-five years. She is the author of 22 books, including the bestsellers The Emotionally Abusive RelationshipThe Right to Innocence, and Healing Your Emotional Self. Her latest book is entitled, It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion.

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Podcast DSG Abuse Mini-Series: Escaping Emotional Abuse with Beverly Engel

By Kate Anthony | February 11, 2021

Emotional abuse is a deep and insidious attack on the soul. It causes the victim to question the truth about themselves, to doubt their worthiness as a person, and even the capacity to love.

In Beverly’s book, she writes that she found emotional abuse and shame to be more harmful than physical abuse. Whether or not you are being emotionally abused, this episode is a must-listen. The only way to help people from abuse like emotional abuse is to talk openly and honestly about it. We cover so much in this episode, I hope you’ll tune in.

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Podcast: Recognizing The Impact of Shame in Toxic Relationships

By Dr. Rhoberta Shaler | February 7, 2021

You might never have thought about the possible elements of shame in toxic relationships. This is something that likely both you and the #Hijackal are experiencing. No, there’s no excuse for the abuse, but this episode will help you understand a deep dynamic in these relationships. Important to know!

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Podcast: Escaping Emotional Abuse with Beverly Engel

By Psych Talk Podcast with Jessica Leigh, PhD | December 21, 2020

During our discussion, Beverly focuses primarily on the role of shame in emotional abuse, as well as defines for listeners what emotional abuse is and what some consequences of emotional abuse are beyond shame. In her book, Beverly guides readers through healing their shame, freeing themselves from emotional abuse, and becoming more empowered. Although Beverly does not walk us through all the steps during this interview, she provides insights on the first steps for individuals to start healing and letting go from an emotional abusive relationship.

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Podcast: Understanding Emotional Abuse

By The Psych Central Podcast | November 4, 2020

What are the signs of emotional abuse? Can you be a victim or a perpetrator and not even know it? In today’s podcast, we welcome psychotherapist Beverly Engel who explains how emotional abuse can sometimes slide under the radar and may even be mistaken as care. In truth, it’s all about control. Join us for a nuanced discussion on the many forms of emotional abuse and how to detect it.

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11 Tips From Therapists on Coping With Anxiety During the Novel Coronavirus Pandemic

by Kate Mooney | March 23, 2020

You may not be able to see your friends, but there are other ways to stay connected. While hunkered down inside (whether quarantining, self-isolating, or complying with shelter-in-place orders), either working from home or out of work due to the effects of COVID-19 on the service industry, we all need coping mechanisms to take care of our mental health. Allure spoke with three therapists who offered advice for how to ground yourself when you’re feeling panicked, how to self-soothe when you’re catastrophizing, and little ways you can find moments of relief throughout the day.

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8 Signs A Loved One Might Be In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

by Kelsey Borresen | January 8, 2020

Here’s how to know if a friend or family member could be a victim of mental abuse and what you can do to help them. We’ve previously written about the signs that you might be in an emotionally abusive relationship. But what does this type of toxic dynamic look like from the outside? Below, experts share potential warning signs that could indicate a friend or relative is the victim of emotional abuse.

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Fierce Female Issue: A roundup of Fierce Female authors who talk about what it means to be truly fierce

by Sarah Kloth | July 27, 2019

What does it mean to be fierce? Well, this issue of Shelf Unbound is packed full of what it means to be a fierce female. We have an amazing, truly inspiring interviews and a roundup of female authors who share their vision of what fierce means to them.

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Library Journal, STARRED Review

Reviewed by Deborah Bigelow | May 1, 2019

“In light of the #MeToo movement, psychologist Engel provides women with hope, comfort, and
a number of preventative strategies in reacting to and recovering from sexual assault…This
comprehensive book supplies women and interested general readers with everything they need to
know, from healing after childhood abuse to ending sexual harassment. Essential for all women.”

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10 Myths About Rape and Assault to Debunk on Sexual Violence Awareness Day

By Erica Nahmad | April 5, 2019

For all of these reasons and more, many victims chose to stay silent and never report their assault, or more drastically, never tell another soul about what happened to them. According to Beverly Engel, a psychotherapist and author of I’m Saying No!: Standing Up Against Sexual Assault, Sexual Harassment, and Sexual Pressure, victims are often too ashamed to speak up. “Sexual assault is a very humiliating and dehumanizing act against someone. The person really feels invaded and defiled, and there is a lot of shame attached to that,” Engel told ABC News.

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10 Books That Could Actually Improve Your Life

By Ashley Johnson | April 12, 2019

Life is known for throwing challenges at you when you least expect it. This is the year to get ahead of the game with these self help books and and other inspiring reads. Read on for a great list of books that could change your life!

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8 Books to Jumpstart the Activist in you

New Sparks | April 11th, 2019

I’m Saying No! by Beverly Engel – This She Writes Press author has written a powerful book about standing up to sexual assault, harassment and pressure. We feel honored to get this empowering work into the hands of those who need it.

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8 Books to Jumpstart the Activist in you

by Alison Luther | March 26, 2019

Activism isn’t reserved for those who are angry. It’s for those with concern, conviction, hope and belief in a better society. We rounded up some of the best books to inspire the activist in you – and to strengthen the voice for positive change that we all possess. These are six new books to jumpstart the activist in you.

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How to Support a Friend or Loved One Who Has Been Sexually Abused

by Vanessa Marin | February 27, 2019

If you’re not a survivor yourself but you’re close to one — maybe a partner, friend or family member — you may not be able to fully understand what they’re going through, and you may feel confused or lost about how to best support them. Here’s what you need to know, and how you can be supportive.

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The 8 Definitive Books On Feminism And Its Struggle

by Zak Parker | February 26, 2019

#5 I’m Saying No! by Beverly Engel – Serves as an empowering guide for women as they learn to own their “No!” Beverly empowers readers to stand up against sexual assault, sexual harassment, and sexual pressure, while equipping them with practical tools to do so. The author pulls from her three decades of experience as a licensed psychotherapist and advocate for victims to help women both build their courage and find their voice. Through well-researched explanations, real-life stories from clients, and helpful guides, Engel builds on the momentum of #MeToo and #TimesUp by encouraging readers to speak out.

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Why getting even may make you feel worse in the long run

by Jennifer Breheny Wallace | November 11, 2017

A colleague steals your idea and then undermines you in front of the boss. It’s human nature to want revenge. But will getting even make you feel better in the long run?

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11 Subtle Signs You Might Be In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

By Kelsey Borresen | March 5, 2018

Don’t let these warning signs fly under the radar.

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Why all men should try therapy, now more than ever

By Sofia Barrett-Ibarria | March 5, 2018

I was recently on a date with a guy that had a promising start. The conversation was flowing, and it was clear we were both attracted to each other. But before we’d even had a second drink he’d brought up his debilitating self-esteem issues. And his latent eating disorder. And his rocky relationship with his father. And not because I asked.

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Why So Many Women Don’t Report Sexual Harassment and Assault

By Beverly Engel | February 22, 2018

When women started coming out of the woodwork stating that they too had been sexually harassed or assaulted by a man, people wondered, “Why did they wait so long to report it?” and “Why didn’t they speak up at the time?”

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